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[skyring]

There are two things that are the absolute high and low of the convention. And they concern one person. Inkognitoh.

She hates me. I can live with that. I certainly don't hate her. She's fun of fun and taking a great delight in the convention. And that's the high point. There is nothing about this convention that pleases me more than that she is here, because I was afraid that she missed the wonderful UnConvention last year because I turned up, and I wouldn't want anyone to deny themselves a pleasure because of me.

But I haven't been able to reconcile with her, or even to agree to disagree or something. She doesn't want me to respond to her in any way whatsoever. How can I respect that and still have anything like a workable relationship?

Last night at trivia the support team were all in uniform t-shirts, and folk were taking photographs of us. Including Inko, and I'm pretty sure that she was aiming off to one side to exclude me from the shot. ***sigh***

All the more bitter because she gave the absolute best possible quote of the convention: "I just love this - all of my imaginary friends are real!"

I guess the two things balance.

Having a wonderful time here. Too busy to give details, but I didn't get to bed until about twoish this morning. Have to be gone at oh-dark-early tomorrow, so I didn't drink the sun up, but oh, am I having fun!

Comments

[elhamisabel.livejournal.com]

I don't think anyone should take it too much to heart if anyone else doesn't particularly like them. It's only natural that not everyone likes everyone.
That includes BCers as well.


:-)

[teotakuu.livejournal.com]

People don't need reasons not to like other people and of all the people I know, you would be the easiest to like. That said, as Elham has already pointed out, even BC'ers don't necessarily all like each other just because they have BC in common.

I am glad that you are having a wonderful time, dear heart. Take care of yourself so you come home safe to the Southern Hemisphere, home of you, Tim Tams, the All Blacks and me!! LOL

[skyring.livejournal.com]

All the better for talking to you yesterday! Just about to head down to the breakfast. Listening to JimOn.

[texaswren.livejournal.com]

If it's any consolation, there is someone who feels that way about me too. I'm luckier than you, because I know I will never actually meet them. (There are some advantages to virtual relationships.)

Just remember that the rest of us love you enough to take up the slack.

[tzurriz.livejournal.com]

I can't even imagine how someone wouldn't like you! Sillyness. Just sillyness.

Remember, not only are you loved, but you are, um, loved! :)

Okay, my brain has gone wonky.

[fechtbuch.livejournal.com]

Glad to hear you've been having a good time at the Convention. Envious of you, Inkoh, and all the other good people who made it over there. Maybe nex year - oh, wait, that's here, isn't it?
Sorry you feel that way about Inkognitoh. As Elham wisely observed, it is a shame that we don't all get along as well as we'd always like.
I do know that Inkoh hasn't been making any posts in her LJ about her feelings towards you, or lamenting anything about your behaviour, so perhaps there isn't as serious a rift as you imagine.
I must say that I'm really looking forward to meeting BookCrossers from all over the world, Australians included, in London next year.

[skyring.livejournal.com]

Perhaps I should just let it go, but if you look at this it's hard to avoid the sense of tension. I don't think that I've had any interaction with her that warrants this sort of treatment, but I'm quite happy to apologise, again, if there has been any offence taken.

Looking at her LJ, Inko has apparently made no posts on the convention, but I am able to report that judging by her happy smile, she had a great time!

As did everyone else. It was an absolute blast and you need to brace yourself for Americans flying in next year by the jumbo-load!

[fushmush.livejournal.com]

ouch, that is harsh!

I *heart* you Pete! If only for your TimTams ;)

[molyneux66.livejournal.com]

(((hugs))) Pete - but maybe you are just trying too hard to get her to respond to you?

Best to just let it go - you have countless other friends who adore you!

[skyring.livejournal.com]

I don't think she wants to respond, and frankly, I'm not spending much time working out why. This is for me to have a whinge about. The one uncomfortable point in an otherwise marvellous trip.

[shendoah.livejournal.com]

I don't know Inkognitoh so I have no opinion of her personally.

I do know there are plenty of people I don't like. One in particular makes my spine want to rip itself out of my body and run away. I work with her no less. :D

However I'm glad I'm not rude, hostile or play the "don't even respond to me" card. This woman, despite my negative feelings of her personally, did a phenomenal training a few months ago that I learned a great deal from. If I had refused to hear her, I would have missed out on the information.

So my friend, continue to be your generous kind hearted and consderate self. If she tunes you out, the loss is hers alone.

[myopicmeringue.livejournal.com]

Gosh - I don't know what to say. I had no idea that anyone hated you - you seem so completely unhateable. But as elham said, not everyone will like everyone. But it must be uncomfortable being disliked on a fun convention thingy and not even being able to agree to disagree. Although I suppose it's better than someone pretending to like you when really they hate you. At least you know where you stand. *hugs*

[jfroebe.livejournal.com]

Everyone has at least one other person that they 'rub the wrong way'. There may be no reason at all for it or it could be a simple misunderstanding at the root of it. Who knows? If you want her to be your friend, you will have to talk to her about it, if not, don't worry about it.

I have nothing against Inkognitoh or you. In fact, I'm pretty certain it is a misunderstanding as both of you are wonderful people.

[mojosmom.livejournal.com]

Hates you?? How sad. I know that one can't expect to get along with everyone, but hate seems awfully strong. Well, just remember that, even if Inko doesn't like you, there are a whole bunch of us who do!

[woosang.livejournal.com]

Well stated. I wouldn't worry. You have ME!!!!! :D HAHAHAHAHAHA
Seriously, you can't win they all.

[abitstormyout]

As long as you're not confusing Inkognitoh with me, seeing as she and I both have the same, slightly unusual first name!

From reading your LJ postings, I like you very much and was disappointed I couldn't come and meet you in London last week. Still, I'm sure there'll be another opportunity at some point!

[sunneschii.livejournal.com]

I'm rather with jfroebe... it's most possibly just a misunderstanding.
And I think if you are really bothered by your relation, you should probably talk to her about it. It's something that's between you two, and not the whole BC community on LJ. After all, you and inkoh are known here.
So, my advice: Talk to her first, then talk to the public.

Ah... and next time Elham and me will come to the convention as well... we seem to be missing a great party! :-D

[reggiesgirl2.livejournal.com]

That's too bad. I like both of you very much so I don't like to see that happen. However, like several people have said, there's always going to be at least one person you rub the wrong way.

For me, I have at least three or four that I know of and three of them I have no idea why they don't like me. The fourth was because I answered a question in the BC forums giving my opinion (which is what the writer asked for) and someone ELSE took offence at my opinion. So, at least I know why they don't like me. :)

We're leaving first thing tomorrow morning too but we're driving so I probably won't see you again before we both leave. It was WONDERFUL to meet you and I look forward to next time. *hug*

[thebiblioholic.livejournal.com]

I think it is perfectly normal to not be able to have a relationship with some people. You can't expect to like and be liked (or even tolerated) by everyone in the world. I don't think attempting to force a reconciliation would be a productive thing to do. Just let it go.

There's a half-dozen or so people that routinely rub me the wrong way on the BC forums. I chose to deal with the problem by avoiding the forums, since some of them seem to pop into every thread that I read and even trying to ignore them was irritating me. On the other hand I have made a ton of good friends (online and in person) among the BC/LJ community and I cherish all those friendships.

[browneyedrae.livejournal.com]

I can't imagine anyone not liking a person who is always smiling, full of energy, happy, easy going, full of adventure, worldly, always ready for a good laugh, great conversationlist...that person is You!
:-) don't let it get you down. You are much loved by many others.

[wombles.livejournal.com]

Someone who doesn't like you? amazing!
I can see that would be upsetting to you, sad that she won't even agree to disagree, though I have no idea what the history is, I'd say try not to worry about it.

There are many of us that love to see your smiley face!

This is a great quote though!"I just love this - all of my imaginary friends are real!"

[holmesfan.livejournal.com]

I'm one of the multitude who love you and just have to say "Her loss".

With all of us you don't need her.

{{{{{{{S}}}}}}}

[schwaschwa.livejournal.com]

"But I haven't been able to reconcile with her, or even to agree to disagree or something. She doesn't want me to respond to her in any way whatsoever. How can I respect that and still have anything like a workable relationship?"

I don't think posting a public comment on the situation for a variety of your peers to jump in and get involved in this is going to go far in the reconciliation process with her... if I were her, I'd be very very pissed at you right now!!!

Anyway, c'est la vie, we can't all get along. It doesn't (as far as I know) happen to me very often, but when it does I try [try, not succeed :-)] to use it to learn to let go of the need to be everyone's friend. It's hard, but she has her reasons and if you've made it clear you harbour no resentment and in fact admire her, that's all you can do really.